Jen Glantz is a bit of an anomaly—the 26-year-old New York-based writer loves being a bridesmaid. She’s such a fan of the full taffeta experience that she’s gone pro, offering her services in a recent Craigslist ad.
“Let me be there for you, this time if you need someone to take control and make sure bridesmaid #4 buys her dress on time and doesn’t show up three hours late the day of the wedding or paint her nails lime green,” went the ad.
The response has been overwhelming.
“I’ve heard from women all over America, Canada, the UK, Australia and Hungary,” says Glantz, who has since created a website to advertise her services. She gave us the scoop on what makes a great bridesmaid—and how to take down a bridezilla without spoiling your manicure.
What on earth made you want to be a professional bridesmaid? Within 48 hours, two of my closest friends asked me to be a bridesmaid and my friends started calling me “the professional bridesmaid,” so I figured why not try and post an ad on Craigslist and see if I can use my skills and my knowledge to help women around the world on their special day.
Most women would not volunteer to be a bridesmaid. Why are you? I love helping out women and I really enjoy weddings. I think that there’s nothing more beautiful than two strangers meeting in some chaotic way and coming together at their wedding. I love to be part of that. I think it’s such a beautiful thing in this busy world that we all live in.
What’s the bridesmaid’s main job? You want to make the events leading up to the wedding as fun as possible for the bride. So, I think a lot of the duties involve organizing those events and executing them in a way that fulfills the bride’s dreams.
What makes you a great bridesmaid? I’m willing to take charge of the planning and the itineraries and the communication. And I think my bridesmaid superpower is my sense of humour.
What makes a bad bridesmaid? A bridesmaid who isn’t doing the best job they can do; someone who’s putting herself before the bride. You know sometimes we don’t always like the dress that the bride has picked out for us, and the [bad] bridesmaid is going to complain and start drama around that. Think of it as someone else’s special day, the one special day of their lifetime perhaps. You need to be more a selfless kind of person to be a bridesmaid.
Are you single? I am single enough to be in the middle of the dance floor catching that bouquet! At the last wedding I went to, they asked all the single women to come out onto the dance floor for the throwing of the bouquet, and it was just me and one other person, and she’s about to get married! I thought, Oh my goodness, the next wedding it’s just going to be me! Maybe they can just hand me the bouquet. Being single at a wedding, for me personally, gives me the inspiration and the momentum that love is out there. I like to review the story of how people met. I think that’s so cool. And I think there’s hope because you never know how you’re going to meet someone and perhaps I could meet someone at a wedding! That would be the coolest thing ever.
What are the brides who’ve contacted you saying? Lots of different things. They’ve helped me better understand how there is a need for professional bridesmaid for multiple reasons. There’s been everything from ‘I have a lot of friends but they live abroad and can’t be part of my wedding’ to ‘I have a lot of friends but I’d rather have you step in and coordinate things and be my liaison with my bridesmaids’.
Have you agreed to participate in any so far? I’m in the process of speaking with a lot of women and seeing what they need. I’m hoping my first one will be in September.
What would you charge? Prices do vary and they’re based on travel expenses and out-of-pocket expenses. I’m willing to work with all budgets. I’m currently working on coordinating a couple of different packages. There’s everything from a virtual bridesmaid package to me actually being there on your wedding day and everything in between.
What’s your best advice for dealing with a bridezilla? You need to be calmer than she is. You can’t fight fire with fire. You have to use humour… when in doubt make a stressful situation a funny one.