Sooooo—he picked April. After a cacophony of catfights, a few semi-awkward overtures, and some (seemingly) heartfelt moments, the beefy bachelor Tim Warmels has found love, he says. Though some doubt the show’s ability to facilitate an authentic relationship, we can report that Tim Warmels and April Brockman do indeed seem pretty into it. During their interview with FLARE, the two were in charming sync, and, now that the cameras were no longer rolling, answered our no-BS questions about what really goes on behind the scenes and how they felt about their treatment on the show. —Lauren Sutherland
How do you feel now that the show is over?
Tim: I can definitely tell you it’s a very genuine sense of relief!
Tim, you’ve said that you’re a “hopeless romantic.” How did this influence your decision to go on the show?
Tim: I love the idea of splendid, grand gestures. I hoped this would work out, but a part of me was realistic about it. I went into the show thinking, “Maybe this won’t work and I’ll go back to what I was doing before having learned something about myself.”
Was there anything you’d like audiences to know about you that we didn’t get to see on the show?
Tim: It’s worth remembering that an hour of a show represents a week or two of our lives. A 44-minute show, which is really 30 minutes of new TV, represents weeks of our lives. In reality, there’s a cadence to it. Some of our conversations were a lot longer than you could imagine.
April: Viewers aren’t always privy to a lot of what goes on when the cameras aren’t around. A lot of the moments that made our relationship develop weren’t on camera, or didn’t make the cut.
You’ve spoken about the acceleration of relationships on the show. What was it like to be moving so quickly in your relationship for the sake of the show?
April: I was bringing him home to my family and I was like, “Oh my God, I’m bringing home a stranger!” But we did get to spend more time together after that point in the show.
Tim: That’s the thing about the show that is daunting. At some point you just need to say, “Screw it, let’s just try!” And in a way, it was a really beautiful thing because it’s the epitome of throwing caution to the wind. You are risking downright embarrassment and heartbreak for this.
April: And you’re not getting married after eight weeks. You’re getting engaged, if that. At the end of the two months, we didn’t necessarily know if he was going to ask the question or if I was going to accept, but we knew we wanted to be together.
Tim: She had given me a note the day before proposal time, and it said, “You follow your heart in the moment and I’ll follow mine.” I didn’t know if she was going to say yes if I asked the question. I think that was the only genuine way of going about it. There’s never really a time where you know for sure, because it’s so quick. You really have to do it in the moment and go with your gut on it.
Tim, what was it like to be fostering so many relationships at one time, and what was it like to do so in the public eye?
Tim: It’s really difficult to be open to it all at once. Imagine the most epic relationships in your life; now compress them into six weeks and overlap them. That’s what it’s like!
Were there moments where you acted in a way you couldn’t have planned or foreseen?
April: I’m not necessarily very happy with how things were edited, but the choice was made.
Tim: I was stressed out, April was stressed out; you don’t get to see the makeup of the show. After she met my parents and I asked if she wanted to be there, she took a long time to explain to me that she did really want to be there but was just super-stressed because the situation was so crazy. It’s so understandable from my perspective, because yes, this is crazy!
Was it love at first sight?
Tim & April: No!
Tim: She’s a very attractive young woman…
April: …and he’s tall, dark and handsome, but it was in our early conversations where we made a connection.
After cultivating your relationship in the public eye, do you think things will change when it’s just the two of you?
Tim: It’ll be a lot better!
April: It has been just us this whole time, but now we’re living real life.
Tim: It’s just nice to do the normal things and see what real life is like.
What did you learn about relationships and love while filming?
April: For me, it was just to walk into things with an open mind and an ability to trust and take risks.
Tim: I feel that in our culture, so much is based on the idea of romantic love; that you’re just going to fall into it. I’m more of the frame of mind that there does need to be that passion, that friendship, that connection on a basic level. But there comes a time where you make a committed decision.