Rev up your sex life
1 WORK THOSE POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE ENERGIES Here’s one pole dance you may not have thought of: the sexual polarity between men and women is key to great sex. Dr. Lana Holstein and her husband, Dr. David Taylor, explain in their book, Your Long Erotic Weekend: “Here your high school physics will come in handy. Bring a positive charge (yang) with a negative charge (yin) close together and you get potential energy, a charged field created by the attraction between them.”
But here’s the rub: all our efforts to ensure equal rights—with women in the workforce full time, albeit still carrying the majority of household responsibilities—have, in many cases, neutralized the spark between the sexes. “The guy’s burned out because he doesn’t have a radiant female in his life, and the gal’s not radiant because her guy’s burdened and discouraged and he can’t help her generate feminine energy,” write the authors.
The doctors (who also head the sexuality and vitality programs at the Miraval Resort in Tucson, Ariz.) say breaking the cycle isn’t as simple as sharing household chores (although that helps). It’s about scheduling time to consciously connect with your partner. We’re not talking intercourse, yet, but “bringing attention to the heart connec-tion between you and your partner.” They recommend the Open Lotus position, which comes from the ancient Kama Sutra—where the man sits cross-legged on the floor and the woman sits on his lap facing him, wrapping her legs around his back—for 10 minutes twice a day (try it fully clothed the first few times, then progress).
“[In this position] your energy centres—pelvic, belly, heart, and perhaps brow chakras (if you touch foreheads)—are physically connected.” For those of you with a guy with a really open mind, Dr. Taylor explains you can then “begin reciprocal breathing or exchanging breaths.”
Why does it work? Like so many tantric rituals, this position helps to develop trust, closeness and harmony, which in turn fires up female (and male) desire.