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Q: I have been seeing this guy for almost four months now, but he won’t have sex with me. We kiss and cuddle almost every night. I have tried talking with him about it many times, but he never explains himself. He’s always saying “next week” and then it never happens. I really care for him and I know he feels the same way. Can you please give me some advice?
A: Normally I would ask you to evaluate what’s more important to you in this relationship: being with him or having sex. But, this guy’s got issues. He’s not talking to you openly about what’s going on? Wow. You need to move on with your life. He’s got the emotional intelligence of a grade four who’s on regular detention duty. Alternative excuse: he’s married.
Q: How do I stop being so jealous of my husband’s coworker? She’s pretty and sweet and he talks about her every night when he gets home from the office. She just split up with her boyfriend and I feel like she’s going to go after my man. Help!
A: Okay, you need to relax. Of course he talks about his coworkers when he gets home from work—he just spent eight hours plus cooped up with them. She’s pretty and sweet? Great, good for her. She just split up with her boyfriend? That’s too bad. You need to stop thinking about her and start thinking about you. Get your nose out of your husband’s job and keep your focus on the relationship between the two of you.
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Ask Miss Wild - Sept 2006
Miss Wild answers your questions! Why won't he have sex with me? and Help! I'm jealous of my husband's co-worker.