Jed’s Hometown Date on The Bachelorette Was Hella Ominous

Can we talk about his mom’s toast/roast tho?!

Ishani Nath
Jed and Hannah from The Bachelorette are collaged onto a blue background
(Photo: ABC, Photo illustration: Joel Louzado)

We’re at episode eight of The Bachelorette, a.k.a. Hometown dates, and you guys, I can’t believe that I’m still talking about Jed.

Things started out real pleasant. Hannah kicked things off with an epic date in California with Peter the Pilot as he literally took his relationship with Hannah to new heights courtesy in a tiny propeller plane. (Legit, didn’t think this guy was hot until he got into that cockpit then… whoa, mama!) Next up was Tyler C. and his personal tour of apparent paradise Jupiter, Florida, where the water is crystal clear and there’s always an awkward beach party on the go. Then, came Luke P. and the Georgia hometown we were all expecting to be a mess. Surprisingly, we ended up seeing a somewhat softer side to Season 15’s villain courtesy of his Sunday school group (that said, he still needs to gtfo). But, of course, Bachelor Nation saved the most dramatic date for last, and that meant the final hometown was with Jed in Tennessee.

While the other three men showed Hannah around their hometowns, and introduced her to people and places that were important to their lives, Jed (shockingly) took this opportunity to yet again remind the bachelorette (and viewers) that he’s a musician. As annoying as it was to see Jed walk Hannah into a recording studio for their hometown date, we shouldn’t be surprised at this point. Dude brings his guitar out at any and all opportunity (see: Group Dates, late-night rendez-vous, 1-on-1 dates and now hometowns). I mean, who needs to talk or get to know each other when you can just sing at someone? He seriously seems to think this is The Bachelorette: The Musical.

Jed’s I-am-a-musician-hear-me-roar diatribe was predictable, but when he brought Hannah home to meet his family, the music (finally) stopped and the real talk began—starting with a toast/roast from his mom.

“Here’s to everyone trusting their intuition and their gut every day,” said Jed’s mom, Gina, staring her son dead in the eye. “When you stick to your truth, it’s beneficial to everybody.” She then sipped her lemonade, but it might’ve darn well be tea.

Here’s the thing. Jed has been real shady this entire season. Yes, in theory he was upfront about his intention to use Hannah and the show for his own gains at the beginning, but it’s now becoming clear that he forgot to mention some key details. (For instance, he casually omitted that he was in an alleged relationship literally the night before he left for The Bachelorette.) All of these factors combined with his incessant need to make every date about his musical career rather than getting to know Hannah, and his hypocritical disdain for Luke P.’s manipulation, make Jed and Hannah’s romance hard to watch. And based on his Hometown date, it seemed like his family felt the same way.

Given what we know of Jed’s OG intentions for coming on the show, as well as the hot goss that has since come out about his ex, his mother’s words felt hella ominous, and that was just the beginning. In an uncomfortable sit-down with Gina, Jed’s mother made it clear that she was (justifiably) skeptical about Hannah’s feelings towards Jed and whether or not this was the real deal. “When I asked Jed’s mom if she thought that he was ready for an engagement, she said that she believed that Jed had another path for his life right now,” Hannah said in an ITM.

Like, girl, that is your hint. Listen to the man’s momma.

But in case that wasn’t enough of a warning that perhaps this guy isn’t actually the one for you, other members of Jed’s fam added some cautionary messages of their own.

“I’m very protective over Jed and making music makes him so happy and honestly, him potentially falling in love with you, I’m not sure that it’s a good thing,” Jed’s sister Lily told Hannah. *Cue Bachelor Nation vigorously nodding along*

According to a recent post from Jed on Instagram, his family is experiencing the fallout of his Bachelor Nation drama. “Threatening letters and phone calls have been sent to our homes. My parents and sister are being verbally attacked in public. I beg you to remember what seems like a harmless action is damaging to real people,” he wrote on Instagram. The actions against his family the he describes are inexcusable, but also particularly disappointing given that it seems like the Wyatts were always looking out for Hannah, and her best interest, in a way that Jed is not. From the shady toast to the multiple sit-downs, Jed’s father, sister and mother all seemed to raise the alarm that this charade has gone too far. Gina even went so far as to tell her son, “It doesn’t all feel very realistic to me but you know, you’re the one living it.”

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Hi y’all. Several of you have reached out with messages and questions. Please know I’m not able to answer right now, but as soon as I’m able to, I will. •Until then, I ask that you please understand how much the actions being taken towards myself, my family, the men on the show, and above all, Hannah, are affecting all of our mental and physical health. •It goes beyond what is said online. Threatening letters and phone calls have been sent to our homes. My parents and sister are being verbally attacked in public. I beg you to remember what seems like a harmless action is damaging to real people. •I want to thank all of you who have reached out or reserved judgement until I am able to speak openly and I can only ask for your patience and kindness until then.

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If it wasn’t amply clear from the multiple musical interludes in previous episodes, Jed’s main focus is his music—and his family seemed to reaffirm that during this Hometown date in a way that felt ominous for whatever relationship was building between him and Hannah. Jed’s mom really hammered it home during her ITM.

“I’m a mom. A little guarded. And so, to see him considering is a little surprising. But he seems in a good place,” said Gina. “All the things we do for love. Everybody just taking chances.”

Though she didn’t directly say it, it felt like rather than Jed’s love for Hannah, she was actually talking about his love for music… And what Jed will do to make that happen.

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