Another one bites the dust. Although several whirlwind romances seemed to make it out of Vermont alive after The Bachelor Winter Games—Ashley Iaconetti and Kevin Wendt, Dean Unglert and Lesley Murphy and Aussie lovebirds Courtney Dober and Lily McManus, to be precise—all but one have managed to last. On the heels of Ashely and Kevin’s split, another two couples just called it quits, joining the ever-growing list of Bachelor Winter Games breakups.
Dean, a.k.a. Bachelor Nation’s biggest and most enduring f-ckboy, and Lesley, a.k.a. my all-time fave Bachelor contestant, were kind of an underdog match from the start (see: Lesley being way too good for him and Dean’s impossible-to-shake-off playboy reputation), but they proved us all wrong when they continued dating for several months after filming on the series wrapped. Hell, commitment-phobic Dean even gave Lesley the key to his place during The Bachelor Winter Games: World Tells All special! So even with my disdain for Dean, I started to actually root for these two because Lesley = queen, but alas, they couldn’t make it work. And when news of their breakup started emerging, I breathed a little sigh of relief for our girl because tbh, she could do better and I’m not convinced f-ckboys ever *really* change.
Lesley posted a lengthy message about the breakup on Instagram on April 8, writing: “Out with the old, in with the TRUE. It was a long winter, and I’m excited for a new season. Let the spring cleaning commence. I’m ready.” Um, is this expert shade or do I just want another reason to be mad at Dean?
It’s a bit strange to feel the need to post about this, but I don’t think I can honestly resume my normal programming without giving you an explanation – and maybe that’s the wrong word, but I just wanted to thank y’all for the love and respect you’ve shown me over the past few days. I spent 5 years away from Bachelor Nation as I lived abroad and traveled for work. I came back to Winter Games because I’ve seen this franchise work miracles before. Through The Bachelor and my journey around the world, I have made deep connections, true meaningful intimate relationships with many walks of life. I know it’s imperative to find someone who chooses us and acknowledges our many layers, who can be open and vulnerable, and most importantly, who is ready. To meet someone and be met. To be chosen and to choose. To love and to be loved. This is everything. All we need is that same energy reciprocated, and despite how open and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves. Don’t be afraid to be the one that loved the most and give everything you had, because you’ve got to find people who love like you do and who are ready. Out with the old, in with the ᴛʀᴜᴇ. It was a long winter, and I’m excited for a new season. Let the spring cleaning commence. I’m ready.
Dean also took to IG to share about his feelings (barf), writing about the “work” he has to do on himself which gives me PTSD for how he tried to atone for the BS he put Kristina through last summer on Bachelor in Paradise.
Growing up as a kid I had a crude but utopian idea of what love is. I always had this idea that no matter what you did, no matter how you act, as long as you’re true to yourself and act in good conscious, your path would lead you to the one person on this planet you’re meant to be with. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that although everyone DESERVES love, it’s not something we’re entitled to. Love takes work. Love is compromise. Love is earned. I still have a lot of work to do on myself, a lot to prove to myself, before I’m ready for something like that.
And then there’s Clare Crawley and Benoit Beauséjour-Savard. In case you forgot, this twosome didn’t actually make it out of the Games a couple—they sort-of dated on the show for one second before Clare and Christian
talked for approx. 13 hours about going to the hot tub together flirted and Benoit’s sweet, earnest heart couldn’t deal and he sent himself home. That wasn’t the end for these two, though—how could we forget the revelation on the World Tells All that they’d started dating IRL after filming was over… oh, and then they got engaged on TV because, hi, this is Bachelor Nation, y’all. But their shared love of kitchen makeouts and competitive winter sports wasn’t enough to make it work for the long haul, and Clare and Benoit confirmed they’d broken up on April 5 with a joint statement on Instagram (how Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan of them).
We understand A lot of you have been asking about our relationship since the show, and we wanted to thank you all for the love and respect as we navigated it in real life off camera. We do understand however, having a public engagement on TV kind of changes that. It’s with a heavy heart that we have mutually decided to end our relationship. We think the world of eachother, and we were both hoping we could make this work. I’m sorry that this may not be what you want to hear, but it’s our truth. Just know there are no negative feelings here, we are simply two people who believed in love, and were open enough to give it a chance. We still care for each other very deeply (That is why no hate or disrespectful comments will be tolerated about the other.) Please respect our privacy as well, as with the end of any relationship, it is never easy. Thank you for your understanding and love while we have shared our vulnerability with the world. Clare & Benoît
“We still care for each other very deeply. (That is why no hate or disrespectful comments will be tolerated about the other.) Please respect our privacy as well, as with the end of any relationship, it is never easy,” part of the statement reads.
I mean, I wasn’t that surprised considering Benoit said that he’d only decided to propose the day before he popped the question. I take longer deciding what to order from UberEats.
Courtney and Lily, we’re counting on you!!